Tuesday, March 31, 2009 @ 2:10 PM
PREJUDICE- For SEL
Let's seee..........

I shall follow your example. The prejudice started on 21st Nov 1993, the day I was born. Apparently to my old-fashioned parternal grandparents, being born a girl was quite a disappointment. Especially when I ws not chubby (well to my defense I was fair you know-up to the point that I looked freakishly pale). SO yes, because of the above reasons, they refused to look after me when I was a baby. (You know when your parents are both working and they need help looking after the kids, they refused to look after me because I was a girl. They prefered to look after my bro that was born 3 years later. So yeah. Not that I'm complaining.)

And they also didn't really look after me and stuff.
Food => my bro
Toys=>my bro
Attention => my bro
Not that I really cared. To a 7 year-old me, they were the creepy grandparents.
To me they were the family I got the most angbao money from but the least concern from too.

Then they wanted to raise me from the age of 7. As a maid mine you. Obviously my maternal grandparents refused. Apparently they wanted a free maid and they didnt want to raise me from a baby as it was a 'dirty job'. (WASTE TIME WASTE MONEY LIKE DUH)

So my relations with them were HNSRYPIJET[AJMR6AW=\-IJA (barely non-existent)
Which soon changed when they found out I was doing well in school. Better than my bro. Like I gave a damn.

Dad tries to fix our relations, but it doesn't really work because they don't know I KNOW.
So I try to keep it in, hoping that one day the skeletons in the proverbial closet will just rot and decompose and just vanish for good.



So yeah, our relations now are cordial, mainly because I wasn't supposed to know about this (which my grandma told me after I asked her why I ended up there and not with the parternal side).

LESSON LEARNT: Next time you have been prejudices against, just swallow it in and punch it out later. On your pillow of course. They are the ones with the problem, and something called Karma exists in this world. Prejudices tend to be unfounded, so there is no point caring about it. I learnt that 3 years after I found out at the age of 8. They will come around, and by then, will be guilt-ridden too (which leads to better treatment -but then again I don't care for it.)

This is probably an unorthodox lesson, oh well. My perspective is different. If they were around my age and I had learnt muay thai they would have been in Changi General ICU by now.

Because forgiving is different from forgetting. You can forgive it, but it still difficult to remove, kinda like scraping a burnt egg from a pan.

Difficult and nearly impossible.